How to help your child who is bullied at school

In Europe, about a quarter of adults are now obese, reports the World Health Organization (WHO). Eva, a co-founder of the Association for the Fight against Grassophobia in Grass Politics, notes that it is considered an epidemic by progress organizations and that it “affects children as well.” “The more obesity there is in children, the more harassment in the school environment,” she notes. Here again, WHO figures: 63% of overweight children are at risk of harassment.

According to a study conducted under the auspices of Public Health France, the incidence of obesity and overweight among young people has risen sharply since the onset of the health crisis. The fact remains that while harassment in the school environment has been a problem for the government to take seriously for several years, fatphobia is still struggling to be recognized. “This inequality is not named in the law and is reflected in schools where the subject is not included in the curriculum for civic and moral education,” Eva lamented. While waiting for some change, parents can become actors and participate in the fight against fatphobia in the school environment.

Identify fatphobic words and verbs

Even before you help your child who has been bullied at school, you first need to be clear about the subject and know what you are talking about. Younger comrades obviously have teasing and gestures, but grossophobia also anchors the heads of children like adults. Alain Thomas, founder of Lola Sis of La Gross Assoc, warns, “An overweight young person should not be overly responsible for their weight. If he is obese, it is not because he has no desire and it is not necessarily associated with him eating too much. Some grossophobic works are also difficult to identify because they are hypocritical. “It will be the canteen staff who will guide a student’s food choices or refuse to serve him again because of his weight,” Eva explains.

A sign that a child is being bullied

If a conscious and alert parent makes it easy for a child to express himself, then the abused youth stay away from the confidence at home about the problem at school. Several signals can warn. “Children withdraw within themselves or impose dietary restrictions”, for example, Alain Thomas cited a survey that found that 37% of 11-year-old girls said they were on a diet or had to go on a diet.

“It’s also seen in lower grades or refusal to go to pool or sports classes,” Eva added. In the first case, you need to undress. In the second, overweight children are sometimes rejected, left out, or exposed to inappropriate tools such as chessballs that point to very small, grassroots political associations that give teachers a better way of thinking about including fat and obese students.

Good (and not so good) reflection

If you discover that your child is a victim of harassment, do not hesitate to talk to the teaching staff about it if they are acceptable, “while being careful not to make it a public regulation at the risk of the child. Feeling more stigmatized”, emphasizes Alain Thomas. Gives. If this has not already happened in her class, suggest to the mistress or master to arrange a time to raise awareness about this, as it exists for racism or homophobia. In this case, it is quite possible to apply to the Association Grass Politics, which is accustomed to practice this type of intervention in schools.

Concerning your child, “Don’t put him on a diet”, the founders of the two associations insisted. “It will only increase her guilt if she fails to lose weight and convinces her that the problem is with her,” Eva explains. “Foods can create fat and create eating disorders in children,” adds Alain Thomas, adding that it is important to remind children in this painful moment that “they love their body unconditionally no matter what”.

Finally, it is possible to educate your child about this, whether or not he or she has a photophobia. Also, according to the WHO, 75% of children under the age of 10 associate obesity or obesity with something negative. “It’s something you find in cartoons. Adults are often lagging behind or stupid,” reports Alain Thomas. “It’s a lack or bad presentation that leads to harassment,” Eva recalls

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