Parents face their children’s addiction: “not taking the burden”

Exceed: How do you explain that a young person switches to addiction?

Muriel Lascox: There are no common profiles or criteria that indicate that such a family will face addictive behavior. However, there are risk factors, including genetics and family history. There are also different reasons: emotion, anxiety, difficulty making friends… some personalities are even weaker. But a reassuring environment, with relative quality, sometimes plays an essential role in preventing the evolution of consumption addiction.

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How do parents react when they find out that their child is using drugs?

ML: Faced with their responsibilities, they are attacked by annoying emotions: a legitimate anxiety, a potential guilt for not seeing before, and a feeling of helplessness. However, taking to control a mental disorder of adolescence. With this, parents must be able to manage their own emotions.

Deaf people among our parents need to come out of this dialogue who say: “It’s dangerous, we have to stop everything.” And teenagers who answer: “It makes me happy, I don’t see the problem.”. For them, the product is a way and not the end. They wish good luck. They smoke marijuana to relax, for example. In the beginning, there is no desire to destroy oneself.

In addition, teens often arrange for parents to discover their behavior and ask for help, as they do not succeed on their own.

What attitude should parents take?

ML: They often fall into two positions: abandoning things, considering that the problem will be solved with age (which is not completely true or completely false) or repressive (preventing the young person from going out, squeezing their pocket money, controlling). …).

The question is not to relax or get serious but to establish a constructive dialogue, establish a relationship of trust to try to understand, even before finding a solution. To understand is not to accept and to establish a structure and rules. By asking at any cost to destroy the danger, a person risks breaking up the relationship and having no effect. A teenager listens better if he understands.

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When and with whom should we consult?

ML: When the anxiety is too strong, when we can’t talk to the teenager or when the consequences of his consumption on his life are very important. “Young Consumer Advice” is for that. We can go there with family or without children, if he does not want to come. Sometimes, it’s enough for parents to find the resources and skills in themselves for acting.

For others, the path will be more difficult and it will need to be held for a long time. You don’t have to isolate yourself and take care not to get burned. Some parents find support in the circle of family or friends, others in a support group. It is important that they breathe and take a step back.



– A movie: Does everything have to be happy?

In this touching documentary, Jerome Adam, whose brother died of drug and alcohol addiction, compares his experiences to those of dependents. Screening date in France at

Critical. “Everything To Be Happy”, a solo film to talk about addiction

A book :

Video games, alcohol, marijuana. Resist and support your teenager,

Directed by Dr. Olivia Fan,

Solar Edition, 368 pages, € 13.

An overview of the most common addictions during adolescence and advice on parenting attitudes.

National Portal Drug Information Services is a mine of information including drugs and their effects (drug dictionary), ways to identify problematic uses, addresses to get help. A chat allows you to live chat and receive anonymous and free calls 0800 23 13 13 7 days a week from 8am to 2pm.

Young Consumer Advice

Led by addicts and adolescent professionals, the “Young Consumer Counseling” (CJC), present in almost all French departments (across 400 regions), welcomes young people between the ages of 12 and 25 for free. And / or stock their marijuana and other illicit products, but also tobacco, alcohol, video games, etc., to allow their parents to do so.

They are housed in the Special Center for Addiction Support and Prevention (CSAPA), the Adolescent Center, and other reception centers for young people.

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