The condition of the child has developed considerably since the 20the Over the centuries the deployment of more comprehensive support, which is essential for the proper development of the youngest, has been replaced with extra attention in some homes. The concept of hyper-parenting comes to us from the United States. There, a certain community of personal success has grown to the point of pushing families who have a way of thinking about educating their children around the ideals of social and professional fulfillment.
“Parent-drone” constantly monitors
To ensure their best future, parents invest extra in their children’s lives by organizing a schedule for minutes, an educational path that involves going through the best schools and choosing their dating. This phenomenon, which is increasingly common in liberal societies, can also be characterized by the child’s extra protection, the refusal to admit that he has done something wrong or that he is frustrated with something he does not have, and so on.
Some psychologists and education experts have identified several underlying categories of hyper-parenting. “Parent-drones” constantly monitor their child, aided by new technology (“special kids” GPS beacons from mobile phones). “Helicopter parents” revolve around their little one, ready for his slightest need. Finally, the “parents-bulldozers” who clear the way for their child, hoping to transform his life into a long calm river. These methods are often an essential element of education: counter-productive in the acquisition of autonomy.
Excessive protection from the outside world destroys the child’s curiosity and need for autonomy, who take the risk of feeling helpless when confronted by others. This extra protection causes fear and anxiety in the baby. No risk exists. Predicting all sorts of dangers hinders learning how to handle conflicts and unforeseen events, while unconsciously convincing the child that he is incapable and can never manage on his own.
The right to make mistakes
For parents, “hyper-parenting” is a vector of stress, fatigue and more commonly illness. Perfecting your child is a utopian goal, error is part of life, and everyone has to face it at one time or another. Focusing too much on a goal that cannot be achieved can lead to mental disorders such as burnout. Babies are often described as having “sponge” feelings and their parents’ mental health condition directly affects their structure.
A side step is needed to get out of this negative spiral. It is important to be aware that being a parent also means having the right to make mistakes. The important thing is to believe in what your child will be taught. Talking about it with a loved one, asking questions is just as relevant. The goal is to prepare the child to face difficult times at times, but also to be fully prepared to experience joy and success. Francois Dalto believed that educating a child “informs him in advance what his experience will prove to him”. Forbidding her from living the life of her experience then is tantamount to giving her an incomplete education, to the detriment of her parents’ very will: to let her little one be her own.
“Event linked to performance culture”
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What is hyper-parenting?
This puts too much pressure on the parents and sometimes on the child and his or her performance. It basically comes from a very good purpose: to be a high-editor guardian. But the surplus is to be a perfect parent, in a perfect world and with a perfect child. This purpose is a vector of failure and excessive stress that one puts on oneself and on the work of education.
This is a growing phenomenon …
Hyper-parenting is not a disease, it is a tendency. Most babies are now called for birth, so parents make themselves more responsible for anything that can happen to them. Hyper-parenting only manifests itself in an individualistic society that puts educational pressure on the parent couple. This is called the “trunk family”, as opposed to the stem family where the pressure is shared on the family’s descendants, ancestors, and older people. There, we see much less hyper-parenting, even when education is a whole community business, as in some African countries where an entire village can help educate a child. The phenomenon is therefore associated with individualism, with a culture of performance, and it is exacerbated by the fact that we live in an inferior society where our children must be treated with less dignity. Hyper-parenting is on the rise today with epidemics, rumors of war, and so on. We realize that our world is not perfect, and all of this makes hyper-parenting more difficult than ever.
Some legitimize the child’s constant monitoring through security …
These are the “helicopter parents”. In reality, this is impossible, and it offers some contradictions: the “inner child”, who lives in their room, even during their adolescence, and who is surrounded by a decline. But these kids adapt and go to on-screen, virtual spaces that are out of control. The result is that these hyper-parents are still worried. As I said, it is not possible to control all the movements of your child, neither in the real world nor in the virtual world. The challenge then is to realize that, indeed, there is a certain number of dangers on earth, but the world does not take the corrupt pleasure to follow our children. The child then needs to be given enough confidence to manage it alone and build his autonomy with it.