Whether or not to reward your child at the end of the school year

Free from their homework and lessons, many children and adolescents see finishing school as a release. On the eve of the summer holidays, should this pass be rewarded? And if so, what and how to strengthen it?

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Maud Goar

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Isabel Begin, a mother of two, aged 6 and 10, declared, “I don’t give a damn.” On the other hand, I offer them a full week off without a schedule, obligation or task. They do whatever they want, whenever they want! A

This means that the two girls eat whenever they want, screen time as desired (in the morning, M mentions)Me Get started), no need to work at home. Eating Halloween candy for lunch? Why not! Lunch three hours after waking up? No problem. Pick up her clothes or tidy her house? No problem.

If she admits to practicing quitting this week, Isabel Begin also takes advantage of this moment to observe what her daughters will do with all this disorganized time. “It lets me see their real rhythm,” explained Remusky, 40.

It’s quite an interesting experience! It gives them the freedom to innovate games and, above all, it allows them to give up.

Isabel begins

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Noémie, 9 years old, and Vincent, 12 years old

For Sophie Periard from Cantley, Outlook, the year-end award is a tradition: her mother did it when she was younger, and she carried on the ritual. “It marks the end of something,” said Nomi, 9, and mother of Vincent, 12. We want to give them a surprise and it often turns out to be outdoor play equipment, a scooter, ball, skipping rope, for example. A

Is it a reward? Effort, not academic results. “I want to point out that we went through this,” he laughs.

Cynthia Tremble, mother of two, aged 8 and 9, agrees: The end of the year marks not only the end of a school year for children, but also the end of parental involvement. “It simply came to our notice then. This is what we celebrate, ”said a resident of Chambli.

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Cynthia Tremblay and Gabriel Prevost with their children, Eli and Lexi

Does it offer its foam? A small gift of their choice. “Something! I don’t care. Of course I have a budget and I want to honor it. It could be a stuffed animal, clothing, a toy, jewelry or a restaurant outing.”

Genevieve Lebland, from Cap-Rouge, likes to give experiences to her three young men, aged 8, 9 and 11. The 38-year-old mother said, “I want to highlight their efforts, their sacrifices, their discipline and their perseverance and I do it through family moments. This year we’re going to the spa, thinking! Once again, we had sushi dinner. A

Rewarded effort

According to psychologist Stephanie Deslaurias, rewarding children at the end of the year is a great idea… if the emphasis is on effort and not on grades. “It can create a performance challenge and create or increase performance concerns,” he explains. It will be like saying to the child: “Love must be earned, it depends on your outcome”! A

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Stephanie Deslaurius

Parents can choose, for example, at the beginning of the year, to set “realistic and achievable” goals, he explains; Children are then stimulated and motivated by achieving these objectives. “It strengthens the sense of competence, confidence, self-esteem and underlines the importance of perseverance,” said Mrs.Me Deslawers

He reminds us that the prize does not have to be expensive. The city, parks, festivals offer a host of free activities and it’s a great way to celebrate the start of the holiday as a family.

“We should not forget that we adults, if there is something we do not like to do, we can choose not to do or do less,” she says, “but children who do not like school do not do it every day. There is a choice to go there. School is compulsory! In this sense, celebrating the end of the year means acknowledging that it is not always easy, we understand and we are proud of them!

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