The La Tuk Friendship Center made similar observations. In order to try to find a balance in the family, the community also needs to equip people, provide them with services and resources.
For five years, the center has been trying to serve men, but it is difficult to reach them. Already this is not the first thing that women will talk about.
We will basically go through food aid, rent assistance to finally understand that women are victims of domestic violence.Says Vicky Lenseignement. So imagine that men get the courage to talk about this.
Evening descends on La Tuque. A few men come to the Sakihikan center, all wearing the same black hoodie with Iriniok Sokerimouin (who supports each other) written.
For about an hour, Toby, 34, Caesar, in the early thirties, JS, 50, and Dennis-Michelle Petikue, 48, at Itikameku, talking, going one after the other with a talking stick. Such sharing circles have been held here for two years.
It’s rare to talk when I come. But when I get a taste, it helps me, because here, no one judges me, everyone listensToby explains.
As our stories come together, it starts from afarAdds JS.
Tonight, the conversation turned violent.
We have all experienced it, little or much. Whether it’s with our parents or other family members, we’ve all felt itWarns Caesar.
Dennis-Michelle listens. And when the conversation was struggling to move forward, who had
A rock ‘n’ roll lifeAs his friend JS says, he takes the floor, draws his own experience to loosen the tongue a little more, to open the heart a little more.
: ”C’est de ta faute.” Dans ma tête d’enfant, je me disais que ça devait être normal que l’homme batte sa femme”,”text”:”Pour moi, c’était normal d’avoir de la violence chez nous. Ma mère se faisait battre et, souvent, j’entendais mon père lui dire: ”C’est de ta faute.” Dans ma tête d’enfant, je me disais que ça devait être normal que l’homme batte sa femme”}}”>For me, domestic violence was normal. My mother was beaten and often, I heard my father say: ” It’s your fault. ” In my child’s head, I told myself that it was normal for a man to beat his wife.Dennis-Michel Pettico says.
” With my ex-wives, I have had lots of physical violence. With every act of violence, I have seen my mother beaten. A
The community animator at the Native Friendship Center in La Tuk tells the story of his father.
A good guy, a hard worker, but as soon as he gets his bodyIt was another man.
It is responsible for residential schoolsLoose Dennis-Michel Pettico.
” Domestic violence started with residential schools because we are experiencing residential school syndrome. The men were sexually harassed and instead of talking they threw it away to drink and then the situation escalated. A
His father was sexually abused, the man breathed humbly. A story that can be found in everyone’s mouth. Kelina and Joey also thought abuse was normal, because they grew up with it.
It is passed down from generation to generation. They are born with it, it is part of their life. We have to get rid of thisSays Vicky Lancegment of the Native Friendship Center in La Tuk.
Many people in residential schools had trauma. It has brought use, many social problems and it has created a game of domestic violenceSpeakers from the Asperimowin Center confirmed, Nathalie Moar.
The above-mentioned studies, such as the Canadian Center for Justice and Community Safety Statistics, prove this. (New window) :
Generations of indigenous peoples continue to be influenced by the negative consequences of colonization and related policies that cause violence and trauma for generations.
They were forcibly removed from their families and communities, then taken to boarding schools – but also raised at home – many children were subjected to neglect and violence.
This extinction of culture and identity, combined with childhood experiences of trauma and abuse, has had a lasting impact that carries on for generations.
Everyone repeats it: it takes seven generations to heal. Other than that, Dennis-Michelle, Kelina, Joey or anyone else doesn’t want to wait. This is why Dennis-Michel describes his anger, his fist also often raised in his outbursts. He still wants it.
I followed in my father’s footsteps. On the other hand, I broke the wheel, He said. He doesn’t drink anymore, either
Able to do verbally With his wife,
An argument occurs when one takes a step back. Before, he did not know how to express himself
Talk to people. The man
Put it in a box, lock the key, drop the key. And sometimes it explodes.
The other men listen to her in silence, sitting around a small table where a number of sacred things are arranged.
After inflicting too many blows, Dennis-Michel finds himself in prison. He then decided that the violence on his generation would stop.
It was already a step towards the future.
Toby, the big guy, starts to open his mouth. It takes time to fertilize. Also required
Keep your ego away, because it doesn’t helpHe added.
He, who is usually silent, begins:
You know you need help, but pride will tell you “no” in your head, “you don’t need it”. Dennis did not hesitate to say that he had beaten his girlfriend. I, at first, had a problem with it, I didn’t admit I was hitting my blonde… not even her motherShe admits, pointing to her son behind her.
The child plays on a screen, headphones in the ears.
I realized it was wrong, it’s up to me to stop it. I saw my dad beating my mom I thought okay and I woke upHe says more.
” If I don’t stop it maybe he’ll want to kill his girlfriend later too and I don’t want that. A
Toby stopped looking at his son. Everyone goes out for some fresh air or a cigarette.
Creating this circle of men allowed participants to trust each other, but also to better identify their needs.